Alive Word: Virtuous lady in waiting
Ministers Wilbert and Jacqueline Richardson - Monday, July 18th, 2011 at 9:00 AM
Ministers Wilbert and Jacqueline Richardson
“Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added unto you.”
- Matthew 6:33
Sometimes when I try to encourage single people who are waiting on the Lord for their mates, they say to me, “You don’t know what we go through; you’re married.”
My response to them is, “I was once single too, I wasn’t born married.”
I know what it’s like to experience the watching, waiting, and longing.
Next week will be our 26th anniversary and I just want to share some words of wisdom with the singles.
I just want to encourage singles to maintain their integrity, live a pure and holy life, and wait on the Lord. Marriage is a serious commitment and is not something to be rushed into out of frustration or desperation. Don’t allow anyone to make you feel like you’re less of a person because you’re not married and may not have any children.
When you’re single, the Word of God says that you’re more interested in pleasing God. This is your time to do just that. If you can afford to travel and feel led to do so, do so. Spend more time with the Lord, in the work of the Lord, and doing the things that you really love. Enjoy your single life. It’s also important that you find your security in Jesus Christ. Don’t depend on the person you hope to marry to make you feel secure. Many women make this mistake.
There are voids and areas in our lives that only Jesus can fill. No human being can take Jesus’ place in our lives, no matter how much that person loves and cares for us. Seek to maintain an intimate and personal relationship with Jesus Christ, and all things will flow in order in your life. Some singles who aren’t happy think that marriage would make them happy. Marriage doesn’t necessarily make people happy, though you can find happiness in marriage.
It may be difficult for you to see all your friends and family getting married while you’re still on the side or in the wedding, waiting and hoping. Yet, if you’re really trusting God to direct your life, you must believe that God’s timing is best and if you’re still not married it’s for a reason.
Don’t sulk and be jealous; rejoice for those who are getting married. If you have problems managing your time or finances or you don’t like to cook or clean, or you always want to be in control or you crumble easily under pressure, you may not be ready for marriage. There may be areas in your life on which God still needs to work. There may be areas in the person that he has for you that He still needs to work on. Marriage is accompanied by many responsibilities, and the addition of a spouse and children in your life will bring a lot of added challenges which you must be ready to deal with for your marriage to be successful.
If you’re in a relationship and you’re not comfortable in it and are feeling you may be hearing from the Holy Spirit that this is not the person God has for you, as painful as it may seem, break it off. I had a broken relationship late in my teens, and it was not a good experience for me emotionally, but I had to be obedient to God. Now after 25 years of marriage I can look back and thank God that I waited on who he had for me and did not ignore all the warning signals I got in my spirit.
Don’t be fooled and deceived by people who appear to be “spiritual.” People are not always who they appear to be. Not everyone who appears to be or talks like they are a Christian and Spirit-filled are truly spiritual. Ask the Lord to help you discern and test the spirits. Forget about the talk and take time to observe the walk. If a person is putting on a show, God will show you. When and if He shows you, don’t pretend you didn’t see.
If you ignore the red lights, you’ll have to deal with the crash. I hear many ladies say that all the good Christian guys are either dead or married. That‘s not so. There are still young men who are walking in the fear of the Lord and grooming themselves as mighty men of valor all across the world.
Don’t leave your church and go church hopping to see if there are any “available singles.” Wait on the Lord. Ladies, don’t step out of line by going against the Word of God and seeking out guys. The Bible states that the man is the one to find a wife, and then it is a good thing. If you make yourself appear so desperate and in need, you could be seen as vulnerable and taken advantage of. Wait on the Lord. No matter how old you are, if you’re not married and you desire to be, still believe God.
Do things God’s way. You may be approaching the end of your child-bearing age and you really want to have children. Talk to God and tell him how you feel, but don’t get married just to be able to have children. Remember Sara. God still works miracles. It helps when the church you attend has an active singles ministry.
Sometimes when you talk and fellowship with other singles, you realize that you have a lot in common and you can share. Don’t allow anyone to force you to marry. Remember, you’re the person who’s going to have to live with him. Whatever you do, seek God in this important decision in your life.
As you wait on the Lord, be a woman of virtue, dignity, and destiny, and a woman who walks in the fear of the Lord. Be a man of character, a mighty man of valor and one who walks in the fear of the Lord. Be a lady of diligence, faith, virtue, devotion, purity, security, contentment, conviction, and patience.
With God it is all possible. One day, as you continue to trust and believe God, He will bring the person that He has chosen for you into your life and it will truly be worth the wait.
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