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I have no feelings for my husband

I’ve been married for the past 13 years to the only man I’ve ever been with. We have two wonderful children and he is an amazing father. We share a really nice ...

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I am married but I cannot get this other...

I have a situation and I need your advice urgently! I am a young married lady in my 30′s and has been married for six years. Three months ago I came into contact ...

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I’m at a crossroads with my job

I am a 30-year-old young man in a dilemma, I recently did a job interview for a job and I believe am going to get the job but the thing is I was recently sent home ...

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My husband doesn’t treat me right ...

 I really need some advice. Two and a half years ago I started dating a really good friend of mine and I fell in love fast. I was heartbroken when he wanted to end ...

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I’m a 20 year old graduate from Elmore Stoutt High School and the cost of living is so high for me to be working and paying rent is real high (cause I live ...

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I discovered photos of nude men on my bo...

I am in this really weird situation. One night my boyfriend was sleeping and his Blackberry kept on bleeping indicating incoming messages. He is a hard sleeper and ...

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My husband is showing no interest in me

My husband and I have been married for six years and we have two children. At first we had a very healthy sex life, however, within the past year and a half he has ...

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One night stands give me a boost

I just started college and the work load is kind of getting to me. I wanted something as a ‘free up’ on the weekends to get my mind off things. Well, I don’t ...

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My mother is getting close to my boyfrie...

I just wanted an opinion on this. I think you might laugh and saying I am bit stupid if not paranoid but my mother is getting to close to my boyfriend. My boyfriend ...

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Me or mom – my boyfriend’s mothe...

My boyfriend and I have been together for five years. All this time we have been living in the house my father left me when he died. But the relationship has been ...

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I have been married to my husband for 13 years and we are having a huge problem because of this girl that is suppose to be his best friend. She is causing trouble in ...

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The guilty hotel manager

I’m a part of the management team of a hotel and I’m in a committed relationship and getting married soon. Sometime in July we had some late hours at the office. ...

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I am attracted to my father

I know this sounds weird and outrageous and I thought hard before writing to you. But I could not take it anymore and decided to write. I am an 17-year-old young ...

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I have been in and out of relationships for a while then at the age of 19 made my decision of settle down. I fell in love with a wealthy, but yet still, hard working ...

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I cannot get over my ex

I am a 21-year-old young woman and I have a loving relationship with a respectable young man who is good to me. My parents love him and so does my friends but I ...

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I have always dated guys that are younger than me or the exact same age. Like many of the women out there I have gotten hurt by a man. I said to myself that I ...

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I am tired of being called a ‘minu...

I am a 22-year-old young man and I have a serious problem with my sex life. I have been suffering from premature ejaculation for a few years and its driving me ...

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I have been dating this guy for six months. Things have been OK. We went on a trip and had a blast. I enjoy being with him but here comes the part that is ...

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I am in love with my cousin

I am a 23-year-old female and I don’t have a really good rap sheet. I fell in Love with my cousin and we use to have a sexual relationship till he got a girlfriend ...

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My ex-boyfriend is ‘bad-talking...

I was madly in love with a guy I thought was going to be my husband and father of my children. We were engaged but like all relationships we were having problems. I ...

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Still in love with my ex

I broke up with my high school sweetheart of 6-7 years after he got another girl pregnant and left the country right after the break up. I’m back now after four ...

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I am 18 years old now and lately I got entangled into  some affair with a married woman. It happened rather simply  enough: we met at a party, she invited me to ...

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I am in love with this guy, who I think is in love with me too. The thing is he only says he loves me after having a few drinks, so I am not sure about his true ...

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My girlfriend stole my semen

I have a girlfriend for about a year now and love her very much, too much. We had many sexual encounters and we practice safe sex. I’m 19 and have a good job ...

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I have a really HUGE problem. I’m a 20 year-old college student and I’ve been with my boyfriend for four years now who’s 21 and also a college ...

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I need your assistance. My boy friend and I have been together for six years. Our relationship has been based on love and trust. I loved him dearly, until I caught ...

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I am intimately involved with a young man whom I met through my friend. From the time we met I did not think anything much of it, just that he is quite handsome. The ...

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I think my boyfriend is gay

I have a problem. My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for over a year now. He is a real nice guy, very compassionate and all. But he is not at all ...

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My girlfriend is a freak

I think my  girlfriend is a freak. I mean she watches porn movies all the time both on DVD and on the internet, she has a collection of porn photos on her computer, ...

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My boyfriend and I are together for only a year. I love and respect him. He is twice my age but age doesn’t really matter to me. In the past he has been cheated on ...

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My sister wants to steal my boyfriend

I think my sister wants to steal my boyfriend. I mean whenever he comes around she sticks on to him like glue. They watch TV, they laugh, they do all kinds of ...

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My boyfriend gossips too much

My problem is this. My boyfriend loves to gossip. I mean I use to hear people that is for women but he brings it to a whole new dimension. He talks about everybody, ...

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I am a young lady and I am very confused!!! I have a boyfriend who I love very much. He have been together for eight years now but the problem is that he is out of ...

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I am a married woman in my early 30’s. I have been with my husband for about nine years, and we have two wonderful children. My problem is that my husband is lazy. ...

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In love with a man twice my age

I have been seeing this guy for five years now, I am now 17 years old and he is now 47 years old. We’ve enjoyed each other in every humanly possible way. He is the ...

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My “significant other” and I met when we were 16 and it was a total whirlwind of love. He was my first experience being in love and he was the first person who ...

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My girlfriend and I have been dating for about eight years now and plans are well underway for marriage. However, I think there is one problem. Recently I noticed ...

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Cheating girlfriend seeks forgiveness

I find myself really upset all of the time. I have cheated on my boyfriend and it was multiple times. Every time he has forgiven me and I am so grateful. I have ...

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Am I a sex addict?

I think I have a problem. It started when I was roughly 12-years old. It was then I notice that I love sex. At first I thought it was just hormones or a teenage ...

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Dear Bella, It’s been about a year now that I’ve been talking to an older man, who has quickly become one of my closest friends/’bestie’. ...

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My best friend is in love with me

I met this guy eight years ago when I was 19 and he was 27(I am now 27 he is 35). He told me that he had an 11 year old girl and that he had her when he was in high ...

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In love with three guys, what do I do?

I am 19 and have a boyfriend whom I loved for as long as I can remember. A few months back we broke up and I started a relationship with a guy I met during the ...

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I have a problem and I wish you and your readers can offer some advice. I am an Adventist and a fervent church goer. I met my husband at church. He was just like me, ...

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I am 17 years old and I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for just about 2 and a half years, but I’ve known him for 3 years. For a while now I’ve ...

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My husband wants a threesome

I have a small problem. It started like this, the other day my husband came home and I was watching TV. He told me he is interested in doing a ménage à trois and ...

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My boyfriend never compliments me

I have been in a relationship with a guy for three years and eight months. I can’t remember three compliments that he has given me in these years we have been ...

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Our family friend is married, helpful and also a Christian, however she is  closer to my husband than me.   She sends lunch occationally to my him or would invite ...

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My husband confessed he cheated, should ...

I’ve been married for a number of  years and suspects my husband  was cheating. I love him very much and he knows that but I don’t trust him and he always ...

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DEAR BELLA: Young woman wants to know wh...

Dear Bella, I’m writing on behalf of my curiosity, not so much to seek advice but to peek the interest and get feedback/ views from your many readers. I am ...

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Boyfriend cheated on me and I am no long...

I am a 27 years old lady. My boyfriend is a year younger than me. We have been together for 4 years..we did everything together..we were very happy together until he ...

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In love with an older guy

Dear Bella: I am 19 years old and I have a fatal attraction to someone who works in the same building as me. To me he is like my soul-mate because we understand each ...

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Boyfriend afraid to meet my father

Dear Bella, I am involved with this guy for some time now. We are deeply in love with each other but there is one thing I need him to do. The thing is my dad has a ...

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Pregnant and boyfriend don’t care

Dear Bella I am a 21 year old involved in a relationship with a man for two years now. Our relationship started of well until lately he doesn’t seem to care ...

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Teenager abused by boyfriend

Dear Bella I’m a sixteen year old with lots going on in my life. I’m involved with an 18 year old who does not treat me to good. We have been together for two ...

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Little Miss Big

Dear Bella: I am a 22-year-old young man who is deeply in love with a 16-year-old young lady. We have been together for almost three years now and haven’t been ...

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She is working voodoo on my friend

Dear Bella: I don’t know if this is the kind of story you publish because I’ve only been reading your article for a short while, but I am at the end of the rope ...

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If you do not hear you will feel

Dear Bella: I am a 16-year-old young lady and I ran away from my parent’s home for a few months now and I have also dropped out from school. Currently I’m ...

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Confessions of a “gay thug”

Dear Bella: Let’s get it out there!  I am GAY!  And no, I don’t mean bisexual but fully gay.  However, no one can tell as I don’t act feminine and don’t ...

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Relationship loses steam

Dear Bella: I am a young woman who at this point is a bit confused! I’ve been with a particular guy for the past year and I love him greatly but for the past ...

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Dear Bella: I never thought I would ever end up in a situation like this. I am now convinced it’s never good to say never because you never know when you will end ...

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Dear Bella: My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We love each other a lot. I know he loves me. We get along very well and his family and my family ...

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Nagging ex driving woman crazy

Dear Bella: I have an ex who acts completely deranged and just won’t let me leave my life. He is always in my personal business and bombarding me to give him ...

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“Hopeless” 22-year-old conte...

Dear Bella: This is hard for me to write but I do not know where to turn. I am a 22-year-old who is feeling out of it. I have been seeing a 34-year-old married man ...

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Dear Bella: When I met my now husband our relationship was like an open book; this was under his dictatorship of course. I never demanded nor expected anything of ...

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Suicidal man has major heartache

Dear Bella: My girlfriend left me because as she claims things were not working out, and now I just feel like I have nothing to live for. I committed so much to her ...

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