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Dear Bella: I have been seeing a guy for about three months now. He used to come to my coffee shop everyday and somehow he swept me away. Right away I knew that he ...

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My best friend is getting too close

Dear Bella: I think my best friend is falling for me. I believe she is getting too close to comfort and I am worried this can jeopardize a good friendship based on ...

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Dear Bella: I don’t know what to do. I met this really nice guy and he is married, but the thing is he doesn’t have a relationship with his wife at all. They ...

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Ex lover wants to reignite an old flame

Dear Bella: My boyfriend of 3 years who broke up with me wants to get back together. We were really going down a bad road in our relationship and he had major issues ...

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21-year-old anxious for baby

Dear Bella: I am 21. I feel I am ready to have a child as it is my intention to further my education next year September and acquire my Bachelors degree in Jamaica. ...

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Caught up in a family conflict

Dear Bella: I am between a rock and a hard place and don’t know what to do. First of all you have been doing a good job giving advice and opinion; keep up the good ...

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19-year-old mother hurting

Dear Bella: I feel that my relationship is going down the drain. My man is 24 and I’m 19, and we have one child. I’m trying to look for job to support myself and ...

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She says he’s just a friend

Dear Bella: I am in this relationship for the past two years with this young lady and we have had a few issues of our own, mostly because she constantly thinks of ...

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Dear Bella: I am a married young lady going through some things in my relationship I just can’t understand. At first when my husband and I just got married he ...

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Dear Bella: My friend is married with this young lady, but since they got married this lady is treating him like he is nobody. He would work and she would be the one ...

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Anxiously seeking companionship

Dear Bella: I am a 26-year-old young woman who is scared of giving my heart to a man. I date men, I get to love them, but whenever the feelings are getting too deep ...

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Anxiously seeking companionship

Dear Bella: I am a 26-year-old young woman who is scared of giving my heart to a man. I date men, I get to love them, but whenever the feelings are getting too deep ...

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Insecurities bring lack of trust

Dear Bella: I need some advice and I hope u can help. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for the past year and I don’t believe he trusts me. He ...

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Dear Bella: I’m in a complicated situation where I’m in love with two guys. One is my boyfriend who is almost twice my age and my high school sweetheart who is ...

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He refuses to pay the bills

Dear Bella: I’m in my 20’s and currently living with my boyfriend for the past year-and-a-half. We have been together for four years. I am beginning to get ...

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Dear Bella: Your readers were quite rude in my last letter (See ‘Looking for Love in the wrong place?’ published on June 25 in Column section) where I was asking ...

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Dear Bella: I have a child with my boyfriend whom I have been with for seven years. During this time, I have been hoping that he would do the right thing and marry ...

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My boyfriend eats like a “pig”

Dear Bella: I have a serious problem with my new boyfriend. He is wonderful and the whole nine yards but he eats like a pig whenever we go out. Obviously, it is a ...

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Boyfriend number one or number two?

Dear Bella: I love reading your column and your advice always seem helpful, so I’m hoping you will be able to help me out. I’m a young lady in her 20′s and I ...

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My husband might not be the father

Dear Bella: My husband and I have three beautiful children together. Two are in high school, while the the youngest is in primary school. We have a happy home, not ...

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Ready for war

Dear Bella: I am at my wit’s end so I’m writing to you to advise me how to end this situation I am in without any violence. I have been with my ...

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Follow your heart

Dear Bella: I am currently in a long distance relationship with my best friend whom I have known for seven years. He is a wonderful person however when we decided ...

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I’m in an abusive relationship

Dear Bella: I want to leave my boyfriend but I don’t know how. I depend on him for everything; he works hard and provides for me and our daughter. He is also a ...

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My boyfriend is broke

Dear Bella: I am 19 and my current boyfriend is 20. I really like him, he is good at making me laugh, and I know that he can’t live without me. He gives me all ...

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I have a crush on a teacher

Dear Bella: I’m a young lady attending high school at one of the top schools in town. I have a boyfriend, but he’s a bit too immature for me sometimes. There is ...

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Does size matter?

Dear Bella: This is a very awkward thing to talk about! I would say that I am a reasonably sexually experienced man, having had several girlfriends in the past. I ...

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Looking for love in the wrong place?

Dear Bella: I live in Antigua I got to know about this Dominican girl when she came to Antigua to visit. At that the time she was in Antigua she was shown around by ...

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Caught up between a bad break up

Dear Bella: I’m caught in between my male friends and one of those friends’ ex-girlfriend. Recently my friend broke up with his girl for some dumb ...

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He only wants sex

Dear Bella: I need some advice about a situation I am in. Currently I am a working woman and because of my job I don’t have much time for relationships. ...

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My girlfriend is getting fat

Dear Bella: I like slim girls. I like girls who keep their summer bodies all year long and look like runway models all the time. I’m a fly dude, and big girls ...

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Young woman has manic-like symptoms

Dear Bella: I find myself being very depressed lately, a lot more than the usual. I used to feel that way when I was a teenager; however I find this depression has ...

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I’m 23 years and still wetting the...

Dear Bella: I am 23 and still wetting bed. I met this girl who I am falling in love with. She has suggested sleeping over at my house several times but I ignore her. ...

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Dear Bella: I have been seeing this wonderful guy for quite some time now and I love him more than words can explain. He treats me right; he loves me ...

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My ideal guy is not expressive enough

Dear Bella: I am dating this guy after coming from a bad relationship and I think I am way in over my head. I think I expect too much from him because I feel the ...

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I’m in a relationship, yet I can&#...

Dear Bella: I need some advice, because I can’t decide what to do. I am a young woman and I’m in a relationship with a loving guy. The problem is that I ...

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Dear Bella: I am a young woman, who is in need of some advice.  I have been married for a few years and my husband has started to cheat on me.  Maybe I did ...

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Bullies won’t stop harassing me

Dear Bella: I’m a male teen in high school and I’m constantly being picked on by some other guys my age. It’s about three of them, and they keep bullying, ...

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I am scared of stalker

Dear Bella: I am having a big problem with this man who is bothering me and won’t leave me alone. I can really say he is a stalker. I feel like when I leave my ...

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How can I compete?

Dear Bella: I am in a relationship with a wonderful man. He is ambitious, hard-working and takes good care of me. He also knows how to ‘put it down!’ You ...

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My boss is hitting on me

Dear Bella: I’m a young man who works at an office with a prominent insurance company. I just recently got married and I have a child on the way. Bella, the ...

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My back-biting “friends”

Dear Bella: I feel like everyone has deserted me. I have no true friends, and those who I thought were my good friends only spread rumours about me and egg on people ...

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The baby surprise

Dear Bella: I am in a very deep situation. A girl I had sexual relations with two years ago met me recently with a baby girl, about two years old, telling me the ...

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Stressed over my army husband

Dear Bella: My husband is in the US Army and it is stifling out relationship. He is constantly on my mind and we hardly get to see each other. Last year he spent a ...

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My life sucks

Dear Bella: I am a married man for eight years with a wonderful wife. She has been nice to me in many ways but the one thing I need she cannot give it to me and it ...

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Dear Bella: I have been with my boyfriend for two years and I think he is totally incapable of listening to me. No matter how I try to get through to him, to resolve ...

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Dear Bella: I am a 17-year-old girl in 5th form about to sit my  Caribbean Secondary Education Certificate (CSEC) exams this month. I am 22 weeks pregnant for this ...

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My married life needs excitement

Dear Bella: I have been married for two years. We are both working people with no kids. I feel like things are getting monotous and I would like advice on some ways ...

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Dear Bella: My husband has become very abusive to me and my children after I got to know about his affair. He calls me and my kids names; he no longer respects me ...

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Gossip girls getting too personal

Dear Bella: I have been the topic of scorn and gossip among my co-workers. For some reason, they just do not like me, and use their tongues to tear down my good ...

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Fearful to tell my partners I have AIDS

Dear Bella: I found out I have HIV/AIDS and I have not been able to let my partners know. I am afraid to let them know;  I have had affairs with married men. ...

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