DEAR BELLA: Small-penis boyfriend threatening to kill me
Dear Bella - Tuesday, January 4th, 2011 at 9:12 AM
Dear Bella: My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We love each other a lot. I know he loves me. We get along very well and his family and my family are very much in agreement.
My only problem with him is the length of his penis, which by all estimates measure about 4 to 5 inches. I am not satisfied Bella. I won’t lie I have cheated on him several times. Not that he is not a good lover, but most women would agree size matters. But that’s not the reason why I am writing to you Bella.
Since last year he has been very insecure to the point where he threatens to kill me. I am unable to go to town by myself. He does not permit me to go to town unless I am going with someone. He says if I leave him he will kill me. I still love him but I am scared he is serious.
My friends are annoyed that I am still with him and they want me to leave him because they believe he will kill me. Bella I think he is threatening me because he thinks he is not satisfying me. I cheat but I won’t leave him. But what if he actually kills me? Bella I am scared of leaving him and I am also scared of staying with him.
I await your advice.
Confused
Dear Confused: I will be very brief. From the outset, I can see you’re in a very unhealthy relationship. You’re cheating on him and he is threatening to kill you. Two wrongs do not make a right. I encourage to get out of this relationship as fast as you can. Seek the advice of the police and also inform your parents. The police will be able to get a restraining order on him.
If you do not take heed, this could turn out very serious.
Bella
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i know one thing if i with a man with a small penis or that cant sustain he better be able to use that tongue lol lol lol ……………..sounds like my last relationship….lol he couldn’t handle his biz plus the “unit”was small and e didn’t want to use the tongue so guess wat i did i left his dunken ass lol that threaten thing is jus a front he can’t do it
well this doesnt sound right to me … if u cheating just leave the man and leave the island, may be its not the man size wood.. u just prefer what u does be getting out there when u cheat…. if u didnt cheat than u would discover what u have now aint much.. u would still be happy with it.
wow several times … why you did not just leave the man….. i can see why he is in secured. if you had just leave him instead of cheating . there wouldn’t been no cause for death treats now
Bella where in the world have you been all this time? welcome back. I have missed you.
To the individual who wrote about her boyfriend. I suggest to you to get out of the relationship. You are already being unfaithful to the man by cheating on him. Tell him upfront that you are dissatisfied, instead of playing games. Go to the police and get an order of protection against him.I have a question for you, You said you have been together or three years, did you sudenly had sex and realized that he was not well endowed? Why did you let this go on for three years? I know that in todays society size matters, but to some women it doesen’t matter the size as long as he knows how to use the weapon appropriately.
p.s your letter was not appropriate for Bella’s column.
This young lady might be in some serious trouble in regards to her life and all you people could talk about it what size you have or the other person has. If you not going to give positive feedback stay off the blog. It so amazing that most of you could only talk about the penis, that is not the big issue right now. The issue is her life is being threatened, and not that I will encourage her to take any advice from most of you, because your minds are so small. If you want to respond please try to do so positively. She don’t care what size penis you have. Which most you just sitting there and lying on yourselves. you may have an adverage or big one as you may call it, and not even know how to use it.
Young lady this is a serious situation, don’t sit there and take your friend’s threat lightly. He may just be serious. GET OUT AND GET HELP.
PRAYING FOR YOU.
@PLEASE STOP, If her life is threatened then she needs to report the matter to the police and not write to Bella.
@PLEASE STOP,
First of all….clearly its about the size of the penis because she shoulda jus say “my boyfriend is threatening to kill me” why did she mention his penis size in the article…..its obvious she wanted to talk about his penis, so therefore, everyone will comment on that!!!! so blame her stupid self for sending such article…..besides, go to the cops not to bella!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If she had really love pana, she woulda buy him a peelee pump long time………
@Real love, He need a operation because if he cannot gave it then he have to take it. Girl be a caribbean person, Tortolians have big wood also and we willing to fill all holes to seal the deal. Give we a chance also. I have at least 8 inches and a tongue to match and my backup is fingers.
@Naw Man, lol lol yea boy i love the tolians who love to use the tongue lol thats my thing rite there lol
If he wanted to kill you he would have…dnt b a statistic n seek help please
tell he to come to antigua nuff lenght yah
Seems like small dick outta style… All owner’s of such need return and get a refund
@Sellin PIPE, Some women want tickling sometimes and lumber another time. she sound like only a bat can do the job. But lord then again I wonder if he got Oriental Blood in he. 4 to 5 inches. Partner man use your foot because ain nothing can keep she good, so try the ass and see if you make progress. If not, then boy let that one go.
It seems like small dick outta style… All owners of such need to get a refund
@real talk U must be a sick sick person
i no some dominicans that have big wood rite in tortola and have strong tongue ckeck us girl
@si papy, I Telling You………Come Check US..
@Full Agreement, oh hell yes d/a man have it and the tongue too
U must be a sick sick person
wow girl let he give it to u somewhere esle
@close friend, that would be hot and dam freaky, hmmm, I wondering now if…!!!
Coming Soon…3-D Penis….
@Quagmire,
lmaooooooooooooooooooooooo
After 3 years, size is not the issue. You have other issues…
@…., I with u on that ….
@Dose, tru
The woman is just seeking justification for her behaviour, and the man is a weakling for staying with a woman who he knos cheats on mim at every opportunity. They should go their separate ways, for the better of both.
Did’nt you realise how small it was in the beginning, what you are saying does not justify your cheating.
this grl is mad….
if she likes big cock only, then why does she living wid him for 3 yrs??
I assume the world is too materialistic nowadays…
And maybe hte 9 inch cock guy will dump her after having sex ??
Then will she come back to him?
THe penis size is just for enjoyment not for living whole life wid ur partmer( it doesnt matter)
Even a guy wid 4 inch can satisfy a grl, its abt the act of havin sex and not just the size….
Its hte grl here who is wrong ( cheating) and now making the guy doing wrong thimgs bcoz of her indifferent behaviour…
Asked some gurls and they told me that short dick gives them gas, lol!! I was so dam shocked and one gurl asked her gay co-worker and he also told her that he get gas from short dick but if the man was his he would not han he but love he more cause love don’t come so easy and he would settle with what his man got to give him.
@Lookie, Love is the key there and the sex wouldn’t be an issue!!
@Lookie,
The gas causes your ______ to poop!!!
Girl if all You want is big Dickie come to Tola and look for Bebe, Yellow man, China, Iron and I sure you will be more than satisfied.
@Rude Boy, You looking for her Virginity to get removed all over again with massive pain huh?
@Rude Boy, LOL LOL LOL U KILLIN MI
I had 2 bf’s with a small pin b4, and they were realll good, but sometimes the problem ain’t the man, maybe u need big fish to swim in ur ocean.
@my 2 cents,
lol @ small pin
i have, not a small but medium penis last time i measure it was 7.10 inches long well u might say thats average size i say it small but ask any one of my many girl who sex them the best in there life ntime and it aint about no money or material things, cause only thing i giving is dick ……….but the point of the matter is some woman do have big vaginas tooo especially them with big batty….i want the man to kill her u did him wrong aint insecurites is intuition……………….
Size do matter. Thank God I am WELL PLEASED with my partner
. I feel your pain sister, but cheating on him IS NOT the answer….there are so many things to do with a guy who has a size issue – well a “size issue” in your opinion cause he might think he is OK.
Its amazing how Mr. Penis generates so much conversation……
for real, it seems a penis/vagina can either make or break a relationship eh! lol
and THAT is messed up!
What is the big problem? I the man is treating you the way that he should then what are you worrying about. My husband is 1.5 mm not inches and he made three children. POWER TO THE SMALL PIN.
@OMG!, I know you got to be joking.
@OMG!, lol lol this article is killing me ……………..
You need to stop haning dah damn man! Leave him, come try me, I have a full fledge size 7 ….and I’m the captain, come less go sailing in the high seas…… lol
@BVIslander, Dude, 7 is only average, and by the way girth matters more than length. Most women like their men the thickness of an empty toilet paper roll, I know that for a fact.
@donna,
7 inch is well above average….If you dont know facts …search google.
The average size of a man (NOT a DONKEY) is 5.5 inch….
WELL I SLEPT WITH THIS DOODE ONCE , HE IS FATTTTTTTT BUT IS CUTE AND HAD GOOD HAIR AND EVERY TIME HE COMES TOLA HE USE TO ROLL ON ME WHEN I FINALY GAVE IN 2.5 IN CHES OF HARD STICK !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@LOL, LOL !!!
@LOL, lol lol lol i can relate to that lol lol
Size does matter wid a small dick u dont enjoy yourself as much as if he had a big dick ………………..
i am not sain becuz he dick small u have to cheat but i mean come on every body enjoys a big dick it makes u feel good so dont worry wid them tha size dont matter it matters a whole lot becuz if tha was my man the first time i had sex wid he and i notice he dick was small i woulda tell he tha i jus aint feeling it and i would look me a real man wid A REAL DICK
It seems that when man cheating on woman its no big deal.. all of a sudden a woman doin it and de readers cah take it.. Men does get fed up with women even though they luv them.. they say I luv her but the sex is borin. Same thing with the woman she luvs the man but the sex is borin. The issue is he is threatening her instead of throwin her out. Simply means he lacks self confidence… Given the state and beliefs of the young people today size does matter. The bigger the better… They like to feel full be filled at the end of it all…
I need to go love up my man and stop complain about his 9
damnnn wow really, wat u complain fa??? da more dan a good size!!! u need to keep dat 9 inch on a string, n neva let go a it
If he or she has a big belly subtract an inch or two off the pipe.
Tramp, pure and simple.
I swear I see you on CTL shelf for $1.99!!!
@real talk is a garden tool,
Ah tellin yuh! Nastyyy.
5 inches is small? Now i’m depressed
@Big man, lmboooooo
@Big man, i tellin you…and here i was thinking i was in ting
@Shattersphere, lol lol lol lol omg i cant contain myself
I’m a woman and i think 4-5″ is a good size on a man. first of all you can work that thing how u want without the PAIN. secound of all it will hit your gspot perfect. so sex should be great with thunderous orgasems. I think u guilty because u cheating.
GURL I KNOW HOW U FEEL !I ONCE MEETTHIS DUDE HE WAS WELL KNOWN AT A WELLPOPULAR STRIP CLUB WE HOOK UP AN SO HE WAS ACTING ALL LIKE AH SHOTTA LIKE HW GOTZ SHITZZZZ, NUMBER ONE HE HAS THE SAME SIZE PENIS AS WHAT U TALKIN, NUMBER TWO HE BELLY SOOO DAMN BIG THAT HE LOOSING ALL HE POINTS IN BED CAUSE HE WASNT GOOD AT ALL!I BUT GUESS WHAT I STILL THERE CAUSE HE DASHING OUT ALL THE BENJAMINS TO ME ! I ONLY THERE CAUSE HE LIKE TO GIVE WOMAN HE MONEY , HE IS SO STUPID CAUSE I DONT EVEN WANT NOR NEED HIM !! HE HAS HIS FAMILY SO HE BETTA GO BACK HOME AN MEET THEM CAUSE HE AINT NO USE TO WOMAN NOR HIS SELF OUTSIDE , HE JUST EMBARASSIN HE SELF !!!
@real talk, You ah idiot sah! Mmm Mmm Mmmm.. Gold diggin sluttish ho!
@real talk, You sound real ignorant
@real talk, Smh and tweets, you calling her that but what about the man who has a family. It is always quick to criticize the women but the men need to wise up. Instead of investing that time with his wife he is making a fool of himself like so many other men out there.
@real talk,
Honestly don’t think you could sound more backwards if you tried with that little outburst
What wrong with you woman? You claim you love the man but you running around with your skirt pull up and giving it away to any man you see with a size 10. You claim he’s insecure but that not correct, he just figure out that his woman is a skanky tramp that he can’t trust outside of his eyesight. The man deserves much better treatment than that. He can do nothing about his size but you can do something about your nasty addiction. Why don’t you do the man a favor, leave him alone and get out of his life before the pain you causing his heart land him in the prison and you in the graveyard!
I guess the song small pin does chook hard is a lie lol, but on a real she up and down causing a muck and then wondering why he so suspicous. Who does teach these people how to be mature?
Bella this is a cycle and it will continue. Both of these persons need counseling. These young persons is creating a recipe for disaster and it started somewhere. This young lady need to associate herself with Family Support Network or her church with a good with expert relationship counseling. New Testament International Worship Center and New Life Baptiste Church seem to use certain interventions that help. I attended church at New Life and there was this guy I cannot remember his name had a workshop on relationship I don’t know if she can sort out where he is and how to contact him. If these two people seem to get along that is good but they need help to deal with their individual issues separately then together as a couple
Well, what does his penis has to do with u loving the guy, I have a guy that has a small dick but that aint no problem with me he works me very well. But he’s goin leave me now cause I been talking to friends about the way he threats me as the last person in his life but his friends are most first. He’s young, looks older than his age but has a child like manner sometimes when he’s linked to his cell, texting or fbing. But I love the guy and it hurts like mad and now he doesn’t want me in his life. But gurl you leave the guy and his penis, you should leave him since u just cheatin for big dick!!!
BELLA YOU CAME BACK SWEET AS EVER AH CANT STOP LAUGHING. But to be honest size really matters, My friend was telling me someday ago that she met this nice looking guy and they hooked up. She said they did evverything but when it was time for him to release his pants he was very shy about it and confided in her that the fello was tiny. This was an ageable guy she said…in his 50′s. She then told him she will like to see it…so he pulled down his pants and to this day all she saw was his belly. She ask him if he had left it home..She said she will prefer to be with a man who is ugly with the tool, than being with a handsome man with no tool…she said he had bear belly…………big big belly no fella.none wahtsoever…..lord Bella yo sweet…………….
hmmm is woman like u does make good man turn badd!!! so if he penis that small why u still stickin around ??i guess its the materal things he got or something keepin u there ah wa ?? his money , his house his car tell me it gah be something that u there so long!!!!stop uasin the man an live on with ur life !!!
You know he had a small penis the first time you slept with him. You should have stop sleeping with him after that first time since you like big dicks. It took you three years to figure out you cant deal with the small penis any more. Please fess up. You found a man with a bigger penis and now you want to leave smalley. Just leave the man alone. You are the one with the problem not him. And just for the record, penis size isnt all. Leave the small for the large and you will get more han/horn that you can deal with, and small penis will find a woman who truly loves him for himself, not his size
@Fmp, it look like your penis small too.. oh ohhhhh
Sorry to dissapoint you. I have a vagina….lol
hahhaha
If your life is being threatened, why are you still with him and writing on Bella? Your friends can’t help you if you don’t have the courage let go to move on. Are you trying to find a way to justify wrong doings?
it seems to me that this woman is cheating, and just want to justify her cheating! First of all why you have to bring the penis size into it, 2nd your cheating u say, das why he is acting they way he is acting so cus he figured dat so he dont trust u, if in three years u have been together and only now dat u cheating u feel scared, i mean has he ever hit u? has he ever been to jail for violence? and another thing if ur family likes him it sound clear to me that he may be a good guy! so stop bein a scam and admit ur wronge and leave the guy? cus passion can make a man kill!
lol ,welcome back bella
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