Engagement my butt! Go sit down
- Friday, June 18th, 2010 at 10:00 AM
Why announce an engagement, especially if you’re not getting married in six months or less? In my opinion, an engagement should be kept private between the parties involved. No one needs to know that someone placed a little cheap ring on your finger.
Women on a whole get wet when men talk about ring and marriage. Ladies, get a grip. Some men just do it out of insecurity.
I know a lot of girls who have been engaged for two years going and the boyfriend is not talking about marriage, but when she thinks of cheating the ring appears to be a psychological hindrance.
“I feel like I am already married. It’s a commitment,” one of them told me once.
Oh please! If your man engaged you and he has no idea when the wedding is going to be or he is telling you next year, especially if next year is more than six months away, 50% of the time he is not ready to get married. The ring is just used to mask his insecurity. Also be very suspect about men who want to engage you before they travel or relocate. An overseas relationship is not going to work, first of all. Worst, a ring will not do much either.
And I find it very appalling how gullible women get when a man shows them a ring. Come on ladies. Do better than that.
I have seen females advertising their engagement on Facebook, Twitter, Hi5 and Msn Messenger, then several months later or years later when you ask for an update, they say it did not materialise.
Just the other day I was online, relaxing and chatting, and one of my female friends said “hi Nice Guy, how are you?” Now this so-called friend hadn’t spoken to me for months but because she got engaged, and she wanted me to see her display photo on Msn Messenger showing her engagement finger with the ring, she hailed me up. But I did not comment, so she changed her display photo a few minutes later to her ugly self. I know for sure the man does not want her. She needs a mirror.
Men are to be blamed too. When you are starving for “fish” and you get some good “fish”, things fly through your brain, causing a disruption in normal functioning of the vital organ, prompting you, among other foolish things, to rush and spend your lifetime savings to buy a ring and engage the woman; then after the “fish” gets stale you change your mind when the poor woman’s mind already prepared for a wedding.
Guys get a grip, and stop handing out rings like wholesale toilet paper. Don’t engage a girl until you’re absolutely ready for marriage, and you’re absolutely sure of the date.
Some people however get engaged as a sign of commitment, but it is still senseless. Why do you need a ring to prove that you’re committed? Are you trying to say you’re not 100% confident?
OK before I go, I’ll reiterate, stop showing off because your man gave you a two-carrot engagement ring or a pop corn ring for a ring. If it’s over 15 carrots, it is not real. It is vegetable, or he probably found it. It’s not worth celebrating because that is no surety that he will get married to you. When he places the ring and start making concrete plans for a wedding, then you know you have a winner. Otherwise, beat it. And leave the people dem Facebook and Messenger out of the equation.
I hope when ya’ll break off the engagement you will announce it too – on Twitter! Tweet, tweet!
See ya next Friday!
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The writer of these articles must be one ugly loser of a guy. He is a sexist and harbors an obvious hatred of women. His male chauvinism relates that he likely has: 1) has been shunned by woman repeatedly, 2)hates his mother. 3) has no respect for women, 4) would lean toward being a rapist or a serial killer or at least a woman beater if he ever was lucky enough to get a woman to be in his presence longer than 2 seconds. His articles are not humorous and are extremely derogative towards women. Freedom of speach and the right to an opinion is one thing but I question this newspaper in choosing to publish these articles that clearly promote an unreasonable attitude against women; sexism.
Mr. Not-So-Nice guy has continuously spewed gender discrimination in his unkind words against women. His articles show a clear dislike of women and should not be tolerated and promoted by the media or the public. Women around the world are still facing violence and subservient conditions to men. We watch news reports and cry out in horror at women disfigured or killed in these countries because they were unfortunate to be born female. Women's rights groups and governments fight for these women daily. Perhaps these articles were meant to have a tone of male vs female humor. But rather, they have no humor at all and are outrightedly sexually discriminating against women. It it is deporable that sexism is being promoted especially when we as a country are suffering from excessive cases of sexual abuse towards female minors and domestic violence. Mr. Not-So-Nice-Guy should be terminated from writing this or similar articles.
I agree with him, SORRYFORYOU.
The guy sounds like he has been around., I mean thats why he is called Mr.Nice Guy lol.
Oh please half of what he said aint make no sense. First of all overseas relationships do work i have been in one for over four years because of school and we are still both committed to each other. Also i have been engaged for over a year and I am getting married very soon. Also I do love to show off my ring who aint like it lump it, but not for the reason he thinks i like showing it off because for the first time in years I am very very happy. Of course we have our ups and downs but if you do have a good relationship you talk through it. Seems to me he sounds very jealous because he had a bad experience with an engagement fiasco or the person who he asked to marry him turned him down. Not because yours didnt work out sweetie doesnt mean that others wont. Lastly Im sorry for the persons who call you friend because if your ecstatic when one of their engagement is broken off you should be ashamed of yourself. With friends like you people certainly dont need enemies.
I have to agree with Mr. Nice Guy. I have had too many friends whose boyfriend engaged them, the years rolled on and they never got married. My husband and I on the other hand, purchase my engagement ring and our wedding bands all at the same. I never wore my engagement ring until February and we were married in May. Our decision was based on the same things that Mr. Nice Guy were saying. We are happily married 8 years nows.
Since I have been married, I have advised a lot of my friends and family to do the same things that my husband and I did and each and everyone of them have made it down the aisle successfully and they are all still married and happy.
Mr Nice Guy believe me ,,,most of us women dont want no ring or to marry you bunch of waste of time masquerading as men..
Issues is joke….Nice guy you gots problems….if people want to “waste their time” according to you…what bearing does that have on your life? Will it help you to breathe tomorrow or stop you from functioning?
I dont get your issue….but boss its hilarious, watching you unravel like that…hilarious!
who the cap fit let them wear it when others are hurt it is not hard to know the bible say and by their fruit you sahll know them mr nice guy is just telling us not in too many words that he has been hurt and maybe more than one times lol
and these days especially in Tortola Marriage is nothing!!! Everybody doing what the hell they want…everybody doing everybody so what's the sense? Marriage is nothing but a bunch of broken promises!!!
You seem to be a poor, lonely, ole FART!!! sad. You have some issues you need to get checked out. And by the way, it's CARAT not CARROT. sheesh!!!
Well married does't mean you aren't living in sin, lots of marriages these days are ppl who are divorced, so if you ask me sin is sin, the vows are till death
Nice guy it seems as though you too have issues around marriage and engagement. With all your negative words, lol,lol. Did someone leave you at the altar, lol.
I absolutely agree with most of what you said and for the most part it makes sense I could understand you get all excited about getting married but an engagement these days aint no surety, and its a waste of time, just set the date for the wedding and get it over and done with. Guys are so smart when we as women start to act up they give us something to calm us down (a ring) thats a same they learning the game but we still have more tricks up our sleeve than they do. so watch yourself girls. lol
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