His tiny penis is a big concern
- Wednesday, November 7th, 2012 at 8:37 AM
Dear Dr. Cindy:I have been dating this wonderful man for the past couple of months. All is going well. He is decent, a real gentleman, has a great job. He is divorced and has several kids.
He told me he has learned a lot from his failed marriage. I believe him because he is very kind and sweet.
My concern here Dr. Cindy is that one day we were making love (no sex, just petting) and I touched his private area and realised his penis is very small.
I asked why is he so hard (just to find out if he was really erect) and he is says “very”. Dr. Cindy I was turned off immediately. I am not looking for large sizes but something adequate.
It’s painful because he is a good guy but his tiny penis is a huge concern. I do not want to continue this type of friendship.
I just want to be friends. But how do I tell him I am no longer interested because his penis is small?
PH
Dear PH: I appreciate your frankness; simply being honest with yourself about what you really want from a relationship is important to making the choice that is best for you, and you have done this. You have made the first step.
The second part is to let the other person know, which is not always easy. You stated that your friend’s tiny penis is a huge concern and you do not want to continue this type of friendship, you just want to be friends. Based on this statement, the issue seems to be how to communicate that you are no longer interested in more than friendship.
You will need to communicate this to him as to avoid any misunderstandings from a sexual standpoint. There are several approaches to doing this. The goal, however, is to be as effective as you can with minimal negative consequences when you tell him “I am no longer interested because his penis is small.”
A few tips I would suggest would be to have the conversation when both of you are not engaged in any form of sexual petting or sexual contact. This will allow for both of you to be focused on the topic and not sexually distracted. Also, you do not want to present as if you blame him for what in your opinion is a small penis. This may cause him to become defensive, confrontational and/or lead to an argument/altercation. Should the latter be of concern, I suggest speaking in a safe, but private environment.
Simply let him know that you conclude that the size of his penis is not of your preference and that you do not foresee moving forward with him in a sexual relationship. You let him know your thoughts of his good attributes as you have described in your letter and that your decision was based on your sexual preference.
Even though this may be difficult, I caution you to not back pedal once you have started with the discussion, as this may lead to confusion and misunderstandings of what you really want and how you feel, as well as no resolution to the matter.
Also, follow through in your behaviour, such as not having any sexual contact in whatever form. This will solidify your decision and eventually bring some form of closure to the situation.
I wish you well.
Best Wishes,
Dr. Cindy
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You’re blaming it on small penis, you’ve got the big vagina… it’s unnecessary.
a small penis is a f&^%%^&ng nightmare once youve been told to youre face that you have a small penis and deep down in youre heart you know you dont measure up to most women it really damages youre ego for example i was dating this girl we had sex and after the sex she totally started to treat me different and then she went and told her friend in front of my friend that i was a nice guy and that i gave good oral but that i had a really small dk and that she dint whant to be with me no more and ever since then ive had a really hard time staying hard and i havent had sex in 6 years the fear of being humiliated liek that again it haunts me and to be honest i pray to god all the time and beg him to take me my life it fk for ever
LMAO!!!!!!!! i meen its not important but you have to admit she knows what she wants……….it can be that small but then again do your thinghoney you have to br happy …….small penis hilarious LMAO!!!!!!!!!
I think judging a man by the size of his genital is ridiculous. I had a BF with a big one and believe me it is not what people think. It can be very painful. When you are young, sex means a lot. But believe me when you are older, you look at the good qualities of the man and those are what will really count. Needless to say the guy with the big one is no longer in my life because his qualities left much to be disired. If your guy has a small one, that is what God gave him. I am sure he can find things in you that he wish were different. We were not all made perfect. We need to learn to accept the things we cannot change. I do not agree with Dr. Cindy. I think you might be throwing away a good thing that you might regret later in life. Listen to someone who is older and wiser than Dr. Cindy. There are many ways to please a partner sexually. Look at the lesbians, they are quite happy without a big ****!
I do the judge the men I date by the size of their penises. I have learnt to work with what I have so hat we can both be satisfied during sex. Why are women so shallow anyway. I would never give up a kind, loving , sensitive man just because his penis was small or even because he was impotent. People need to grow up and realise what really matters in life. To the small penis men out there there are women who will appreciate you for who u are and not judge you by the package you carry in your pants.
Having a small penis is a big issue. Just the other day a friend told me about a guy she was dating,a young, handsome entrepreneur ….When they decided it was the right time to be intimate which each other, and my girl saw the size of his penis, she was so disappointed, she became sick immediately the only thing she could have said to the poor guy” I AM FEELING SICK”…….i should say tht the guy knew y she became sick just out of the blue…… his comment to her” thIs why no woman wants to stay with me, because my penise is small” I actually felt sorry for the guy, but its life, and its also a big issue in our society.
LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLMAO!!!!!!!
wow that is soooo messed up!!!! I feel so bad for that poor guy.. smh
Dr. Cindy said to say, “…. the size of his penis is not of your preference “, lololol thats some funny stuff for this sad situation
The same woman will write back asking advice about her life, it will go something like
After I stopped seeing small penis guy, I met someone that was blessed and knew how to use it. But after 2 mths things started to change, I kept hearing about him and other women and he would deny it. I miss the love and attention I use to get from small guy ..Recently I found out that i was pregnant and when I told him he became angry and I don’t see him as much… HAHAHAHA
A relationship is more than just sex! How old is this lady? And I really doubt that she has been talking to him for months because a lady saving herself for months won’t back out because of the size of his penis. She will base the relationship on the fundamental values of trust, honesty, loyalty, etc.
I know many women who are not satisfied in the bedroom but are happily married because there is more to a relationship. She needs to grow up.
p.s. those with the large penises usually cater to more than one pum – just saying
My sizable one is one of the things that make my love mates can’t get enough off me. I feel the pain of the guy with small inadequate pecker. It’s a blow to your ego Cause not even surgery of today can help them much.
Maybe one day bionic penises that can be surgically attach as your own will be invented. Keep the hope small guys.
You sounds so condescending. Were you tryna be funny? Careful your sizable one stop work.
Give it a try he might just please you more than a man with an average penis. Plus when you lack in one area you improve in others lol try it.
My man has a small penis and it is great,,,I would not give him mup for the world…I love sex like any other woman. Only a real woman works with what she has. I guess she just want somone jump on and off she lol.
i got a feeling you’re a guy. everybody has different tastes when it comes tot the opposite sex. like some men wants D cupped size women, some girls have different anatomy and they don’t feel anything when the guy is small. STOP BEING A HIPOCRITE.
You will probably find a man with a penis as big as a horse and he will treat you like shit.
Wow. If pana already gah a bunch of Children, then he obviously ain’t gah much problem having sex with women…unless it was just the one girl getting all them children for he?
Even so, don’t tell the man he wood small, please. Even though alot of man does act all ‘cock strong’ wid them stuff, it gah alot of dudes who just intimidated by what dem does hear about and see (Lock off that blasted X’, man!) when it come to wood sizes and such.
If Big man as nice as you say he is and you really ain’t want to hurt the man, just done wid he as peacefully as you can without alluding to that and don’t give he a complex. Either that, or try it out once and see if you can deal with it. I mean, you touch big man vibes through some shorts. How hard or long you do it, meeno but for all you know pana with proper arousal pana could stand reasonably tall….poor dude.
he sure dem kids is he own? The child mother will know for sure. he could only go by faith and what she say.
how it go? you father is not your father but your father don’t know! Jacket not full suit?
The little pecker could be well useless and only good for pissing. Can’t even give she a little tickle. Bess she tell him it aint working out is me not you.
You’s a woman? Cuz if so, It’s ayo Cow pokey type bitches that does really make it hard for the ‘little man’ them to be proper members of society without walking around with complexes and what’s not.
As far as we know, the man is a cool dude and here you is just talkin’ Negative piss and then want to know why the man them you does butt up on ( I still assuming you’s a woman, buddy ) ain’t sh*t. It’s cause a cold chicks like you. Nothin’ positive.
And Jelqing? You want the man tear off he budhead? Leave that dick pull stuff alone.
much better advise than the so called professional. She gave horrible advice. Cudos to you for being intelligent.
But seriously for any guys having dat issue jelcking is da answer here.
DO NOT TELL HIM THE TRUTH, THIS IS ONE TIME WHERE TELLING A LIE IS A GOOD THING. TELLING HIM HIS PENIS IS SMALL WOULD KILL HIS EGO.
These comments are so silly. I see no need for someone to air their laundry in public. If you think the guy part is to small just tell him you are no longer interested and move on. Smiple as that
Too many of you seem to turn on the woman for stating that she finds his penis too small to be sexually satisfying. You would rather her stay with the man in a relationship where an important factor – sex – is not fulfilling for her? That’s exactly what leads to infidelity.
A short lesson on female sexuality. Each woman is unique in what makes her climax – and trust me it is not as easy for a woman as for a man. Women may tell you it’s okay that you failed to pleasure her, or fake orgasms so you feel your masculinity is intow, however, women enjoy that sexual release just as much as any man does. The fact is that a larger penis touches more erogenous zones than a smaller penis does and increases the chance of a woman reaching the goalpost. Some women feel no pleasure from vaginal stimulation and can only be satisfied from external (clitoral) stimulation. Other women need both types. Now couple all that information with one other important factor in the complicated sex life of a woman. The brain. The brain senses all the incoming information from the erogenous zones as well as the sensory-pleasure receptors and computes it all and tells the woman she is feeling pleasure or not. This is why women appreciate sensitivity such as stroking her arm or kissing her softly on the neck. So a man with a small penis does have other ways available in which to sexually stimulate a woman but if she is one who enjoys a feeling of being “filled” by a larger penis then so be it. That is her preference and her choice. Men with too large penises can be as much a turn off for women also. Most women are like Goldilocks who prefers the one in the middle, the one that is just right.
One of the most sensible comments on here. Well said!
What did you type into to google to get this O_0 ?
No, I’m a woman and I am well read on the subject. If we understand our bodies we can better enjoy our bodies.
FYI a small PENIS TICKLES……who wants a woman to be laughing during SEX….get enzyte, so u can smile
A Small penis is a turn off for most women….it spoils the mood and the attraction. It has nothing to do with women not having grip or having a big vajj. Those men who want to bash the woman because she has a problem with his penis size, obviously u and tht guy r in the same bracket, so blame it on the women…..stupid. A woman’s body fit close around anything, it also goes back into place.
Yes. Her vagina would adjust to his size eventually, if this is the only person she continues to have sex with. In time she would think that he had the biggest penis in the world.
Suppose he really SUPER small tho?
I agree with you WONDERworr What if he was mad small then what…………. I understand a whole lot With what PH is going through cause i had the same experience, i met a guy i really like and he was a great guy , and one night we were foundling and when i saw the size of the package i was super disappointed what a gown man doing with the same siz as my son, i couldnt look at him the same, i had made up some lie as why i cound’t finish the job and other lie’s as why i dont want to have a serious relationship. I kno it sounds bad and i kno its not the size of the boat but I’m sorry eventually if we got serious i would have cheated on him, and that would’t have been fair to him…….. Ph dont let anyone tell u what to prefer ( kno what i mean)
small pin does chook hard and also small axe does cut down big trees
She is SHALLOW!!!
If ur nanny nah have grip, of course anything but a larg size penis will seem small to unnu!!
It’s all about the motion of the ocean!
If you really love this guy you should give him a try. I once fell in love with a man with a small penis and had to coach him through sex until it was satisfactory.
have you ever thought that your own pumpum may be too large?
Ha Ha sounds like your a little guy LOL
LMFAO!!! @ Pee wee…lorrrrrrrrrrrrrrd!!
Your statement is chauvinistic. Why is it that most men think a large penis is a symbol of virility and masculinity? Men are the ones who compare the size of their phalluses and cause the smaller sized men to worry and fret. So why would you negatively state a woman’s vagina can be too big? Surely most woman would appreciate that more during childbirth! But the truth is that the vagina is like a collapsible tube and is made up of surrounding blood vessels and muscles. A woman can maintain the “tightness” by practising kegel exercises and using these to squeeze her partner during the act of sex. A woman’s vagina is usually adaptable to her partner. But maybe those who have a larger pumpum were made especially for those men who are well endowed.
I agree with everything you said but you are criticizing Peewee and calling him chauvinist when it was the author PH who stated that her friend’s penis was too small for her. It was not a man comparing his to another.
Lol wow not every girl has the same size vagina even when they are virgins. So i hope you don’t mean that in any way (Peewee)
well do the man and see if he adequate na
HA HA Sucks to be a little guy!!#SELDGE
This vain individual claims he is equipped and can’t spell his own equipment…smh
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