I am tired of being called a ‘minuteman’
- Thursday, July 28th, 2011 at 10:09 AM
I am a 22-year-old young man and I have a serious problem with my sex life.
I have been suffering from premature ejaculation for a few years and its driving me crazy. I have tried pills and it doesn’t work.
My future does not look bright with women and a relationship. I don’t know where to turn anymore and I am tired of being called a ‘minuteman.’
Please help
Young man
Dear Young Man,
It takes a lot of courage to mention your condition as most men would be embarrased to talk about it. This despite the fact that research has shown that premature ejaculation affects 25%-40% of men and most men experience premature ejaculation at least once in their lives.
Hence you are not unique and you should not feel abnormal or feel that something is wrong with you. Quite the contrary, you are not alone in this affliction.
My best bet is to pay a visit to a sex therapist. Additionally there are many ways to control this occurrence. You can try the Masters and Johnson Method (Google it. Space restrictions doesn’t allow me to go in details) or you could try drugs such as Dapoxetine (not sure if it’s available in the BVI)
Bottom line, this is not the end of your sex life. Your condition is treatable. All that is needed is some hard work and a little patience.
Bella
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my boy take red wine it helps allot just before you going to have sex take a glass so it will stimulate you not to come to early!!!!!!!!!!!!!
when ya feel ya want to bust change position
My comment is that I hope that you are also taking care of her in other ways make sure that she is ok also and things will be fine. you will be surpised that the next time you go to have sex both of you will enjoy it and you might just last longer. Sex is not something that you just want to do to get your nuts off enjoy her and you will see a difference.
Try drinking sea moss and a guiness mix them up and try again that should help but don’t hurt her. Go for the natural foods things that are not processed.
I hope that this is a satuation that you are in love with this girl and not just having a quicky with someone. That too can make a difference. If you are in love you will be relaxed and enjoy it.
Oh amd make sure that you are having fun try different positions other than the traditional position that might help to enjoy.
I agree with most of what was said. Here is a list to choose from: (1) Condoms do work, but thats if thats ur thing.(2) Its all about the mind you have not learnt to control yourself yet or (3) drink a guiness like a 20 minutes before, my boyfriend does it all the time, and she better brace herself
(4) if you can speak to one of dem yardie, they will advise you. I wish we can talk and I could problably help u out. Good luck
AS one dude said, Mind over matter. I don’t know if you just getting “EXITED” Cuz you in some, but If you can keep calm, don’t hyperventilate and throw off too soon, you can last a good 5-10 mins (Apparently, woman gah stuff to do nowadays, so my 40 min plus getting edited.) so that should be good enough.
Also, you might want to look into them numbing condoms (You wearing condoms, right? ) wha does numb you up so you don’t really feel nothing and last longer. I used one once, wasn’t my thing but in this situation it MIGHT help….amongst the other positive stuff people on here tell you. (Drink a Guiness, lol.)
This is the first time i read blogs and see ppl im sympathy with this youth….nice ppl, no one laugh at him or made fun. Just to let u kno star that u r not alone on this…i personally feel its an age thing..it affected most of us, as u grow older u last longer. U can try the pull out method too, just b4 u buss a nut pull it out, take 2 draw on yuh spliff then go again.
Bro
handle your business and toss one nut about an hour before you hit dat thing and you go be ok. If you think you goin an nut then think about dog $%it or something nasty, slow down, sueeze when it pass go again.
Just toss one nut tho or you may have to ride dat horsy all night
yes my brother, before u go and check her get off that first nut, that stuff will betray you like it always does, and drink a guiness and u safe…..
U want to last longer, before u go by her or before she come by u… take a ‘hand held’ approach and ‘get off’ once.
my boi stop eat fry food eat cook food and eat a lot of thing what high in protein like cashews bean and peanuts the fry food killing us young ppl
This is a very good comment, too often people do not link what they eat to how their bodies perform, but nutrition is key in all body functions.
Drink RedBull and Rum! Works like a charm!
Indeed it is interesting to read this article. I am double your age and my husband have had that problem for years. As a woman the sexual experience is not something I look forward to with him. Unlike you my husband will never admit he have a problem nor will he seek help for it. You are truly wise beyond your 22 years. Pleasure is two fold.
MY GOD?!
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My dear, the obvious might not be the case here…go have a check up you could very well have a medical condition that you are not aware of.
Boss who tell u iz premature?
Boss if u take too long you’ll have another problem of women not wanted to do it with you either.
So just relax you’re only 22, probably just started doing this, and not using protection. Next ting forget all previous imagery & expectations & just deal with the situation at hand. Sounds to me like your just a thirsty 22y/o, this is the time in your life to be selfish so enjoy it.
Run the race hard, finish it & do it again. Problem fixed.
mind control comes with experience. your still 22 you still have growing to do. relax and train your body to do what you want it to do. when you think your about to b***, try holding it in and the more you do this the better your stamina will be.
My boy sex is nothing more than 15 pumps and as for the premature thing idk you just have to get back into the saddle and RIDE
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