Men hate saying “I love you”
- Friday, June 4th, 2010 at 4:56 PM
One of the things I hate telling a woman is “I love you”. Men are not emotional beings. And if we have to tell a woman that, it means that we have to be in love with them – head over heels.
Most times women tell you they love you because they want to hear it back. That’s because women love to hear when a man say “I love you”. But why force it out of us? It’s annoying. Let us say it when we really mean it. Even if you never hear it, does not mean we don’t love you.
Saying “I love you” makes us feel soft and weak, and I just cannot afford that to trip my huge male ego. Has anyone heard the Lion say “I love you”? No. He just licks her ears and head and humps away. But he’s the King of the Jungle still right? Yea, men can express love in different ways other than saying it. Furthermore, talk is cheap.
One of the things I hate is when a woman asks you if she loves you during sex, especially if it’s a one-night stand, or worst if she keeps telling you “I love you baby” during sex.
OK come on, do you expect us to speak the truth during that time of ecstasy? A guy will say anything to get in your panties and he will say anything when he is making love to you. Ok what would happen if he does not say what you want to hear? You would stop and push him off right? Of course. And we do not want that.
Let the man take the initiative and say he loves you. If he tells you he loves you during the good times, hell yes, you got yourself a genuine man. If he tells you that he loves you during sex without you asking, then that’s even better.
“I love you Nice Guy,” a girl once told me while she hugged and kissed me.
“OK then,” was my reply.
She got furious and slapped me: “OK then? That’s it? After we *** last night? Oh my God”.
“But babes,” I said. “I like you a lot but love is a different level. I know we can reach it. Give me time.”
But she had none of it, she dumped me. Since then I’ve stopped being honest with girls about being in love with them.
I know women are emotional beings and love to be told sweet things and be pampered but it’s the 21st century. Women know too well how men are to continue to pull off crap like forcing a man to say “I love you too”. Be patient. The man will open up to you.
See ya next Friday.
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yo seriously my girl been tellin me she loves me for months i’ve only started recently i used to change the topic then she cought on an i still didnt say it until now that i mean it and ladies some men have loved u for weeks, months, or even years and yall jus dont notice till they get the guts to approach and jus let it out not all of us jus want “to get in ur panties” i for one wont work so hard for it cuz i dont have too
jus give some of us a chance read our body language and tell if its genuine
Well I guess I dont have a problem, my man would kill for me, and no, I am not joking he tried to kill two other guys before. lol. At times I would catch him looking at me and when I ask him what happen he would ask me if I knew how much he love me. And man we have been together for almost five years now and everytime we have sex its like have sex for the first time, he would telling how sweet it was and dont talk about the climax, my god, there is nothing that holds us back and he is constantly telling me how much he loves me. so I would have to say that I am sorry for you all.
you are a beast
Who is this Nerd? I also wonder if he is a man or some type of ape!
I know for a fact Id never say I would never love you by the sound’s of it
liking might be pushing it!
Really BVI news can’t you find someone with a brain to write for you
That is a whole load of bull!
“Most times women tell you they love you because they want to hear it back”??? WTH??
Okay that is an immature woman. I don’t tell my bf I love him because I want him to tell me that.. i say it because I feel it in my spirit to let him know how i feel. He doesn’t even tell me that back half the time I say it. He mostly says show me that you love me. And i’m kool with that. Because I KNOW he loves me.
“Saying “I love you” makes us feel soft and weak, and I just cannot afford that to trip my huge male ego.”— WTH AGAIN!! Maybe the problem is your huge male ego is somewhat to big for you as well?? If you can’t get soft and weak with your gf who will you get soft and weak with? It is quite obvious that you have learnt nothing about love. Because when you love someone you don’t worry about ego’s and being weak.
And exactly how do you know whether or not a lion says i love you?? Can’t the ear licking be an expression of love for them??
“If he tells you he loves you during the good times, hell yes, you got yourself a genuine man.” NO NO NO!!.. If he tells you he loves you during the BAD times, HELL YES you got yourself a genuine man. And I have myself a genuine man!
It is quite obvious that you do not know what love is. Yes it’s wrong for women to force an I love you out of a man but u can BE A MAN and not have to say it if you don’t mean it. There will come a time when you really want someone to believe that you love them they won’t. It’s not them you’re being dishonest with, it is your self.
in your next article, if it’s “what is love”, don’t forget to include how men “should” express love in different ways.
Thank you nice guy, you answered my questions. Cause I am married for years and every time we done have sex he tells me he loves me. Is that really genuine or the p*&6y sweet…lol….lol
YALL WOMEN SOUND SO DUMB… u hate when a man say he loves you? STUPID he loves you he didnt say he was IN LOVE with u… u can love someone in a week because of their vibe and spirit, u love being around them, talking to them and stuff like that….that’s why we men treat yall like sh!t BECAUSE YALL LOVE IT…. turn off by I LOVE U….ok well I HATE UR DUMB @ss. i BET U SMILING NOW.. u feel good right? call up ur bff AND tell her
girl he tell me he hate my stinking guts…. now i know he care about me
lol
That is only some not all or most.
Grow Up! Get over it!
A man’s first love is his mother, just like a woman’s first love is her father. If you don’t love your mom then it is impossible to love a woman. I once dated a grown a** man who could not say I love you, as a therapist I was able to find out the root of his problem with women. His mother had abused him emotionally as a child. He was unable to maintain any healthy adult relationship with a woman. He had three failed marriages.
I get turned off when a guy tells me ‘I love you’, especially when they dont know you. Trust me, today men say I love you more than women do. I dumped a few perspectives because of these three words. They see a woman and want to get inside her panties, so they throw around the ‘I love yous’ thinking that that will make it happen more easily. They can only fool those women that are naive and have low self esteem.
I totally agree with you.
Haha i hate when dudes tell me dem love me. so fake. specially after i know you for a week. Hell, even a year. you love to see me. you love something about me. to love me, you must first know me, and they don’t. Jerks. I should stop telling people i love them too. Cause like you said, just words. Actually, I take that back. some of these people came through for me. so their love has kinda been tried and tested. hmm. whatevs.
More emphasis should be placed on actions, rather than just words. but saying it every now and then, if you mean it, don’t hurt nobody!
Mr.Nice Guy, boy have you got it all wrong. Here on Tortola the men throw the words “I love you” around like they have no meaning to them whatsoever. Men approach us women and start telling they love us within 5 minutes of meeting. It is horribly annoying and I, personally, have dumped what otherwise seemed like decent, promissing boyfriends, for constantly telling me they love me and annoying me to the point of aggravation within a week of meeting. What men need to realize is that women are not idiots and we want to be in a loving relationship, but we know love takes time to grow. We’d much rather our boyfriend take a year to fall in love and say those words with meaning and truth rather than to spit them out continuously when they barely know us. It is so annoying, in fact, that the man comes across as a needy, girly boy and we just want to run away! Then these boys prove even more pathetic and can’t take the rejection. They begin stalking and whining and crying. Grow up guys. Get an education, get a job, pull up your pants and learn to be and act like a man.
Wow sooo true !!!! well explained !!!
your articles are nothing else but entertaining to say the very least. i thank God for the man that tells me that he loves me (without pressure or me goading him to say so). And you are right, I don’t believe in asking during a time of intimacy because i feel that that is superficial, non-real and quite frankly, quite disturbing…………
perhaps your next article should address “what is love”? really. too many equate sexual feelings and sensations as love. that is why society is messed up. but thank you for your insights and thoughts and look forward to reading next week’s article.
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