My husband is showing no interest in me
- Tuesday, September 20th, 2011 at 10:25 AM
My husband and I have been married for six years and we have two children.
At first we had a very healthy sex life, however, within the past year and a half he has been showing no interest in me.
At first I thought maybe it is due to the fact we have been together for a while now and maybe the spark is not as bright as it used to be.
So I took it on myself to add some spice to the bedroom, to no avail. Even the things he used to like doing with me no longer turns him on. He always complains that he is tired or he always have an excuse.
Then the other day I realized that no matter what I did, he could not attain an erection. This is very frustrating and I have gone out and have sex elsewhere couple of time (I am human, OK. We have had no sex for over a year now). But this makes me feel enormously guilty.
I am wondering, is my husband cheating and is getting his fulfillment somewhere else or is he suffering from erectile dysfunction? He swears that he is fine health-wise and is not cheating.
Frustrated
Dear Frustrated,
Although you might be in a difficult situation, finding pleasure somewhere else won’t really solve the problem. As a matter of fact it might make things worse.
Now concerning the cheating aspect of your email, partners can detect when the other is cheating (although in some cases it is difficult to detect). Have you noticed any changes in his behavior lately: staying out late, secret phone calls and texts, lots of time on the internet and so on?
Changes in behavior and routines can (not always) show that something is not right. So look into this and don’t jump to conclusions as yet.
Concerning erectile dysfunction, a large majority of men suffer from this condition and although they don’t want to admit it, there is nothing to be ashamed of.
I encourage you and your husband to talk to someone; a friend, a counselor, a religious leader. Whatever is the root of your husband’s disinterest in you needs to be sought out and rectified.
Bella
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What about him consulting a DOCTOR.
I agree with “Maybe its not his fault”. Your husband could be suffering from E.D Erectile Dysfunction. He probably is so stressed that He is unable to perform. This is no reason for you to cheat on him. Your marriage vows said for better or for worse, in sickness and in health. They did not say if your man cannot satisfy you to cheat on him. Yes we are human, but you should also show class and self rspect. What if the situation was reversed, would you feel happy if your husband cheated on you? I don’t think so. If you are worth a dam talk to your husband about the problem in a caring way, and you both should seek counseling.Find about what is going on in his life. When was the last time you asked him how was his day at work? The economy is terrible, many jobs are downsizing. When was the last time you showed some interest in your husband, other than he not being able to get an erection? It is such a shame that so many of us are ready to throw in the towel and hop in bed with Silly Willy just for sex. Marriage should be based on a more solid foundation then just sex. Yes, I am well aware that it is very important but is it worth loosing a good man for a night of lust? You should be your husband’s number one fan and cheer leader. If he were to win the lottery today would you still feel the same way about him?
I have walked in your shoes and NO, I did not cheat on my husband. I physically took him to see the doctor. He was diagnosed with high blood pressure and diabetes.After some treatment He is fully loaded and charged. I wouldn’t trade him for all the stars in the sky. He is still my King and I am still his Queen. You need to have the kind of relationship with your husband where he feels comfortable talking to you about anything that is affecting him.
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miss no hard feeling but for what you say is you is what lose interest and trying make my boi look bad and when yoou lose interest after a while the man going catch on and he going look something what up to the time
maybe u argues with him too much time , u no it have some jus naggin an miserable or maybe her sex styles is jus too ole school,
if u fat lose weight and stop naggin him for sex. become unavailable and he will want u..BUT U HAVE TO LOOK SEXY.
woman can hate all they want but truth is truth.
dats life u always get tired of the same food..or probly u are not as sexy as u once was..much more 2 dis so…
Have you ever thought that he may have erectile dysfunction?
Lose weight & give some away…you’ll get more attention than you want.
Are you serious? You are here wondering if your husband is cheating and you cheating on the man no wonder he lost interest.
There is nothing worst that kills a man ego when his mate giving it up to outsiders. I am not condemning you cause we all have our faults but hey clean up you act first then seek out whats bothering your hubby.
Maybe your doing something wrong.. I’m married for 6 years also and only now things are better in the bedroom you have to keep that spark gurlie.. hmm maybe you are drawing him away from you and your not seeing it… be yourself and going out there to please yourself don’t solve the problem a woman shame it worst than a man’s.
Maybe he lost interest in you because you’re cheating
just sayin…
When you say spice things up, what do you mean cause your husband obviously hasn’t responded.
Most likely he’s sleeping with someone else, probably younger, or maybe he just isn’t interested. Women tend to forget how to be sexy when they get married.
You need to be a freak when you’re at home with your husband.
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