My sister wants to steal my boyfriend
- Thursday, May 12th, 2011 at 1:39 PM
I think my sister wants to steal my boyfriend. I mean whenever he comes around she sticks on to him like glue. They watch TV, they laugh, they do all kinds of things. Sometimes I wonder who is his girlfriend.
I spoke to him on many occasions about this but he keeps on saying I am overreacting and he is just getting to know his future sister-in-law.
But somehow I don’t buy this. I just hope I am not overreacting.
What should I do?
Over-confused
Dear Over-confused,
I sense a little insecurity here and that is something you should work on. In all this you haven’t mentioned whether you have spoken to your sister or not on this matter. Now is the best time. Don’t be aggressive, just have a sister to sister conversation with her concerning your fears.
When you have all this down and settled have another chat with you boyfriend. Just be honest. This is an issue that can be easily settled when all parties involved are honest with each other.
Bella
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This may hurt some feelings but here is the truth. If I am fornicating or involved with someone I am not married to, does that not make it ok for the sins of jealousy, more fornication, cheating, lusting to take place? A wrong situation cannot end right! All these emotions come about because of sin. But love and truth is what we attain when we seek to get out of sin. Love just like truth brings security. A lie brings insecurity. Sister I was here where you are and I can tell you this, when I was in sin all these things mentioned above were happenning. I slept with the two sisters not because of love but because of the lust in me and the fact that I had easy access to them. When I decided to leave out of sin and seek truth and love, they were removed. I asked GOD for forgiveness and do my best to teach young men when I get the chance. I am married now and have children and have to always pray that my sins do not show up in them. We all have choices and there is consequences that result from them. None of us can see another persons spirit unless we have a relationship with the ultimate spirit of them all, and that is GOD! It is proven over 2000yrs ago, no greater gift is there than a man lay his life down willingly for his friends. Seek the God of truth and his love will set you free! Free from what? The sin and confusion and all uneasiness!
Shalom!
@The Truth, ohhhh what crap. Fact: people in the church get divorced the same rate as people outside the church.
Fact: people in the church cheat as much as people outside the church. Only difference when we find out our leader has been molesting little Timmy, we dont just move him to another place. You messed with both sisters cause you were young and greedy and after getting it out your system, now you regret it, simple.
@RVIPFing, What does church have to do with it. I am not talking about no church. I don’t even attend a church! Open your mind and don’t try to put God or even me in a box such as a church. Since when God dwells in a building or a building can contain GOD? God dwells in man and all things he created, for it is written God “breathe into man and man became a living soul”, therefore we are his temple! Christ is not religious nor is he a part of any religion. He is not even a so called christian for he was born of the tribe of JUDAH which is one of Jacobs 12 son, thus an Israelite. Not everyone who believes in Christ is a part of any church or religion. You don’t even know about me and have the heart to comment about me being greedy. When the spirit of the devil moves you to comment let him remind you of what you read before commenting. I have already asked for forgiveness for my sins through repentance but you act like you have no sin, so therefore you just might die in yours! You worry about church people sins and not about your own, therefore as the word of God says your sin remaineth for you have no cloak for your sins
Shalom!
wow that was well said , i love this comment so much i read it over and over.
@RVIPFing, somebody tellin the truth real talk church ppl need to stop the bs about ppl who are not in the church
I think the boyfriend needs to know his place. You dealing with a sister and you want to play hanky panky with the other. KNOW YOUR DAMM PLACE YOUNG MAN, as well as the sister. I am not saying yu can’t get along but when you see he is getting to close back him off.
The darm sister should know her place straight off the back, and so is the prick who is with the other sister. But tis something that sister want play moo moo, blind and dumb and see if your sister dont end up with he. When you see them together like that OPEn up your MOUTH and holla, what’s going on here address both of them right then and there.
You ever hear the saying slip and you will fall, wink and you loose you stop there with your nonsense and ask bella crap and don’t open your mouth and see where you end up.
@Fatness, i agree with u there is something call woman inner self and when it speak she should listen if she hearing it speak then she need to listen 9 out of 10 times it is always rite listen to ur inner self.
if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck then it a duck. perhaps your sister is jealous of you.
Bella, I don’t think this is insecurity.This is high alert. What are you going to do about it?
I’m not in siding with you bella with your first line of sense “little insecurity” That’s how most things start. Making the individual feel bad for how they feel towards a partner in a relationship. As she said “They do ALL kinds of things” that’s what she’s gathering when she’s around. What happens when she’s NOT??I don’t see boyfriends friend family members (sisters) like that with out an interest, more going on.That’s just my opinion, I feel she (over-confused) should find her self first ask her self questions (like:do they have WE time (comfort), go out, play around with each (tickle), stay in watch movies, take trips,Talk have FUN (do something different) or more bring SPICE in the bedroom) May be she just might find answers to her problem. Man seek the little things, that they are NOT getting from their partner from others. In her case her sister.
Blood thicker than water girl! Make sure u communicate wit ur sis that that’s ur man. If she crosses the line, u know she out to get u. If the trick falls for ur sis, then u know he wasn’t the one for u. Remember the girl code, u never date another gfs man.
@Listener, Strupes what damn girl code… ? Not like I go out planning to fall for any of my gfs man but….You really think you can help who you fall for? That person might end up be the one you marry…
@, anonymous,it’s a sad FACT but so true,you can’t help who you fall for, it even end up hurting some ppl in the process,am not saying go out there and take somebody partner and say how you in love but sh@#$ does happen mehn.
i had dis problem already but i put a stop to it.. because i kno wa my sis was gettin at…but he didnt see it.
similar thing, more like exact thing happened to me, she never spoke to her sister, but came at me, due to the problems it caused, me and the sister dont even talk anymore, not friends, no high, no hello, nothing. And now she complains that I am disrespecting her sister because I dont talk to her. You made you bed now sleep. Careful the same doesn’t happen to you.
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