Nagging ex driving woman crazy
Bella - Friday, August 13th, 2010 at 9:27 AM
Dear Bella: I have an ex who acts completely deranged and just won’t let me leave my life.
He is always in my personal business and bombarding me to give him information about my whereabouts even as we’re not together. This is driving me crazy. I was really starting to enjoy my single life because it’s less stressful and dramatic for me. He causes me to raise my voice and I get irritated by everything when he nags me so much. The thing about it is we got a kid. I try to be nice, but he always has to bring up some nonsense to provoke me. How can I deal with this without losing my cool so often?
On the verge of insanity.
Dear On the verge of insanity,
Try to have more patience with your ex and don’t let him allow you to be so irritable, frustrated and angered all the time. These are not emotions you want to display around your kid. Also when you go around crossed and miserable people are discouraged to interact with you and you can also give strangers the wrong impression.
If it’s petty don’t allow it to faze you. Once someone sees they’re getting to you that’s what they like- a reaction, so just don’t be bothered by it. However, stand your ground when it’s necessary. As young adults you should be able to both have a civilized discussion even when you disagree and let him know that as well. Pray for the patience and understanding to deal with him- that will facilitate your peace of mind. Additionally, what you do with your life is your prerogative, no one should try to control or manage it so you don’t have to answer to anyone once you are not in a relationship with him.
Bella.
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You are giving your ex permission to get into your personal business. A a man will only go as far as you allow him. You should have scheduled visits when he can visit his child. Let your ex know that you don’t need his advice unless it is pertaining to his child. You have to be firm and consistent. How does he know your personal business if you are not discussing it with him? You can be cordial with him but you do not have to allow him to pervade your life.You have to be in control.
Put your foot down and tell him that he may contact you only if it has to do with the chid. If he cannot abide by this, then get the police to put a restrainig order on him. Case closed!
dat nigga is insecure….jus dont take him on….
Miss, the first thing you have to do is let him know where you stand when it comes to what you do with your life. You guys are no longer together, so he needs to stop medling in your personal business. You have to have an amicable relationship with him because of the child you have together. If the conversation is not about your child it is not happening. Furthermore, if necessary, change all contact information or report him to the police.
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