NICE GUY: Single woman + married man = salop
Nice Guy - Friday, August 6th, 2010 at 10:18 AM
If you’re reading this and you are or were involved with a married person, you’re salop (nasty).
No one should get involved intimately in any form with a married person unless they are fully divorced. It’s just not right, and ya’ll know it too. But lust takes over and we call it love.
I am not sure what it is about married men that these young women love so much. These married men cannot keep their relationship firm, yet they are able to harness the attention and body of young, stupid women, coercing them into believing that a relationship with them is viable.
I could understand if you got involved because the man fools you by telling you he is not married when he really is. However, after finding the truth the next best thing is to dump him and tell his wife. But no, women are so gullible that they will continue to listen to the grime that spews from these idiots mouth and maintain some sort of friendship with benefits.
I agree that we are all human beings and we cannot help being attracted to some people because of how they look and how charming they are. But self control is essential. If you fell in love with a married man, do not place blame on nature. You’re the one to blame because you ALLOWED yourself to. The moment you realised he is married, a line should be drawn and you should not have bowed down to his standards.
I know a few good women who meet married men, who propose the world to them. They become the most charming angels and would offer their souls to be with these “on-the-side-women”. These married men out of nowhere become the best friend of friends. However, marriage is sacred and we all know this.
Commonsense would tell any woman that if a married man is cheating on his wife, he is capable of cheating on his “side thing” if they become serious. It shows he has no respect for himself and women.
A lot of single guys are out there. Good single guys. Some women are just confused and silly. They meet a good single guy, finds all the excuses in the world not to commit to them, but they meet a married man and f*** him and enter into a unhealthy relationship, then when the married man decides to stay with his wife she gets gwo pwel (heart break) and call men “dogs” and that single, good men are hard to find.
Sometimes women are the problem. Sometimes women create monsters.
I stress on married men because married women rarely fall victim. She has to be pushed to the edge. And sometimes when she gets to the edge and brings herself back to reality – unlike the doggish married men, who want to be telling these single, silly women how to run their lives, who to be with and who not to be with. They got the fish already so they could say anything they want.
Ladies, even if a man tells you he is in the middle of the divorce, do not listen to him. Let him get his s*** out the way first then he can check you (if you’re available). Whether he is in the middle of a divorce or planning to do it, is no excuse to get involved with a married man. Also remember that getting a divorce can be very tedious and may take years. He may just scrap it and fix his marriage and leave you screwed and dry.
It happens all the time. So nothing I am saying is new.
Men always come with some bullshite story about their wives to get in your panties. Weren’t they dating before or did he do a blind-date type of marriage? So if his wife is all that bad, why hasn’t he divorced her yet? Oh please, nigger, go sit down.
Women should also learn that married men rarely leave their wives for “side things” who are just “side whores” who satisfy the married men lust for “fresh” vagina. So do not believe that he really loves you. If he loved you he would have gotten divorce long time ago and take it to the next level. But he prefers to tell you rubbish, make you believe he’s in love with you, shower you with gifts, while in disguise he is just buying your pump pum, and enjoying it while it lasts. When it gets stale, he will move onto to the next young girl.
So ladies, harness your self-esteem and don’t get tied up with married men. Stop being a salop and a little whore. Get a grip. OK bunny? One day the texting, phone calls will stop and you will realise you were only a piece of leftover.
As for married women, we know you’re way smarter. Why? Because if the man ain’t playing his cards right, you will dump him no questions asked.
See ya guys next Friday (if I am in the mood).
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@hagen: salop….
I’m sleeping with a married man. I agree with Mr. Nice Guy. This isn’t something I’m proud of but the money is worth it.
Marriage was created so the man could claim ownership to the woman and all her worldly posessions. I do not believe that marriage is a union for eternity sworn before God’s eyes. Marriage is a waste of time and money. No one takes marriage seriously. Women enter into it to feel they have captured the man and men merely enter into it to make the woman feel like she’s won. Marriage is a temporary comittment with divorce being the usual result. I don’t know any married couples who should be married. They all cheat and are unhappy. People should be put through many tests and hoops to determine if they are ready for marriage AND children. I for one will never choose marriage… Maybe if I turn 80 and find myself wanting a companion. At least then my partner will be less likely to cheat and I won’t have to spend a lifetime with someone who drives me insane.
Truthfully the way things have gone with marriages over the years i can’t blame for saying what you have, however in my opinion your comment spews only insecurity and an unwillingness to make such a rigid commitment your ‘maybe if i turn 80…’ says so much. But why wait until your 80 to enjoy companionship? Truly what can you enjoy then when your falling asleep on each other? Here’s keeping it real, “CREATE YOUR OWN REALITY” don’t conform to the social stereotypes and say because statistics or what you see or thought you’ve seen say it I’m going to avoid it. If you understand the essence of creating your own reality marriage wouldn’t seem as bad. like i said though i can’t blame you.
@Stupessssss: And there in lies the problem with our community, we have a moral breakdown. You don’t care now but one day you will even if it’s another 4 years
I have a problem, y women like to bash other women & call them sluts, whores, bitches etc etc. If the husband is cheating on u with 1 woman or 50 women is he a saint? He’s a nasty son of a bitch & women need to take up thier issues with the husband not with the woman. If ur husband lies to u he will lie to his side things as well, both cases r the same which results in piece of ass. We could bend over backwards or cock up frontwards it’s still not gonna change what he’s doing to both women, only diference is a dam ring which is not significant or proves nothing.. Women who r married have their man or men & it’s very rare her side man will call, text or approach another man. It has nothing to do with pleasing both sexes. U could give a man/woman sex 24 hours a day he will not be satisfied, vice versa. I’m a woman & women will do ANYTHING & go to the extreme measures to keep a man, they r spiteful, manipulative, deceitful & makes it worst when children r involved, women need to be independent & dependant on herself. I’m not saying ur husband is not going to be a man & take care of his responsibilities, but women tends to depend & take advantage of men & they r just as stupid to fall for women like that. The woman who said she’s with a married man for 4 years and she’s living the fab life, clearly u can see what she’s about. If they r so much in love y he don’t divorce his wife to be with her in addition if he’s cheating on his wife with her, don’t u tink he’s cheating on her with other women? Both sexes use each other instead of using their brains.
Maybe she does not want him to divorce his wife and be with her full time. Did that thought cross your mind? When he is not available she may be free to see someone else or simply use her time to pamper herself. That is the excitement plus she does not have to do the washing and cooking for him but she still gets her allowance which is probably bigger than the wife’s allowance. That is the sad story.
@mandkind: You need to be married first to understand what married is all about and you are u to be judging married women. Grow up, your immaturity is showing. Wife this and wife that, you sound like a side thing and maybe thats all you be!!! A used up side thing. Poor you, you lack self respect, go and find some fast cause your ugliness is showing!!!
well well wow da y i nah mingle married man i sorry fo dem who do so hm
@And the winner for the most foolish person is….: I disagree with you that the married wife who stay in a marriage has no respect and is the foolish one in the “triangular affair”. Most and foremost, the married wife is not apart of the affair, the husband and the side woman is. A lot of people has this notion that the other woman should not be held accountable for her part in a marriage union of a man and a woman. Tell that to Almighty God and see what He really thinks! And, if you truly understand the true meaning of marriage, you would know that marriage is ordained by God. And it is not that the wife is “condoning” the husband adulterous behaviour. Sometimes some wife stays because they love their husband and understand the purpose God intend it to be. Marriage is not something you enter into lightly or come out of easily. There is a lot to consider and take into account in a marriage situation involving a cheating spouse. While the Bible give reason for getting out of a marriage union, God’s purpose is till death part either party!
Maybe you have not been in a marriage union, so it is very easy for you and many others to give an opinion. Or maybe you have contributed in the breakdown of a marriage as a side thing, but that is not for me to judge. God is the ultimate Judge! As to the article, I am very much in agreement with Mr Nice Guy. These side women need to have a reality check, cause when you look at it in the end they are the ones who is the foolish ones who lack respect for themselves, and foremost their bodies. They may have somebody’s man and feel proud and boastful at it, but at the end of it all what have they achieved? Really and truly……Nothing!!!!!
if the married woman was doing what she was to be doing the flame would not have gone out, most women when they marry you they want to treat u like shitand try to rulethe household andbully the men in their ownhomeand that is why all those married women who wear men pants ans shirts everydaymust have problems , let the man wear the ppant……………
Mr. Nice Guy I don’t care what you say I am with a married man for the past four years and still going you can talk crap at the end of the day he takes care of me from then to now. I am being treated like a queen, bills are always paid, I have a massive bank account and living the fablife. We both love each other wifee got de ring and I got the man. My business is well set up so I don’t care..
Dear Nice Guy you wrote that article with so much vintum, it is obvious your hurt, and your carrying the baggage of a camel but rest and sleep Mr. Nice Guy making statments like that and trying to get folks to believe that what you have experienced is the way of our society is so untrue. Yes there are women who seek the favors of others and there are men who do the same but it does not mean that it is the standard by which we all live. It is said by ole ancient proverbs “As soon as the bitter is forgiven, the soul starts to heal. Let go Mr. Nice Guy let go.
Is them very so call high society one them who there flaunting them sidething in front the wife them face but the wife them aint goin nowhere cause they aint about to give up tha chedda. Duttiness through the place
Mr. Nice Guy your article was long overdue…it is so true what you said some of us married women are so inlove and blind that we don’t even know our husbands are cheating and when we do find out and threaten or leave they pray and beg us not to things are going good again but the side thing cant get over the money and the material things (Love they call it). so she wiggles back in but these married men are weak because as a wife I have kept myself thin (140 lbs) after 3 kids i give my husband lap dances, head you name it and he still cheats so please Mr. Nice Guy explain why men are so thirsty for flesh. In the end the Children are the ones who are hurt and wonder “why mommy treats daddy so good but he never home” its sad…love my kids but after 15 years of marriage I must move on “its about my soul and getting to heaven not fighting over a man anymore…if that got me into heaven I would have continued but as one writer say : “the grass is not always greener on the other side” or “you never miss the water till the well runs dry” this well is dry till the bottom crack up not 3rd chances cause me nar play (baseball)
To Reality…..Your response is spot on so many areas/levels and ur points are so real in nature. This is out of the box for many but ur illustrations are deadset. I hope that others that read it take the time to decipher and grasp the ‘jump off’ and ur response in it’s entirety.
In all, it’s not worth the trip for what it is cracked up to be and in the end Karma is the biggest Bitch. So be careful, mindful, respectful, diligent and open-minded in the choice u make . However, If u have taken the wrong path, do what is needed to re-navigate ur thoughts and actions before it gets too deep or uglier. Don’t ever sell urself short or allow urself to be in triangle, square or hectagon affair – the heart’s design and purpose are symmetric for obvious reasons.
Nice Guy, I’m happy that you ignited this fire – I don’t think we have enuff firemen to extinguish this fire but I know a wildfire when i see one —– and ur blazing.
I am glad that this plague is finally receiving the attention as it is sickening with the behavior of the married men and the boldness of their side women. These women think they are in control and want to even confront the wives. Thank you Mr Niceguy for shining the light on their nasty behavior. It is true that sometimes these men hide their true identity and sometimes they are upfront about it but yet still the women still hold on for the things they can get and do get and hope that these men would leave their wives. Trust me they will never leave. I have seen too many women waste the prime of their lives with married men and when they do realise that the relationship is not going anywhere or the man decide to stay solely with his wife no single man want them cause they done use up. I think we need to search within ourselves for our morals. What are we really getting out of these side relationships that go no where and corrupt us as a peole as women. There is a judgement day, a terrible day coming married men and side ladies when you have to answer to our maker so please clean up your acts now and make it right with God because only he can save you. Don’t do to others that you will not want do to you. You will also one day want to walk down that altar to get married and ofcourse would not like your husband to have a side thing.
@the truth: seems you too are foolish. How can you possibly be happy sharing a bed and a marriage with a man who is seeing other women? Don’t be angry and resentful of this other woman. Be angry at your husband. Of all the parties involved you, the wife, who stays with the man are the stupidest one. He’s the lowlife rat. She may have been fooled and may remain ignorant and hear his lies, and she may be discarded for another…but you who stick by the lowlife rat and refuse to demand more respect are the stupidest one of the lot. A woman who gives her approval to a man’s behavior by sticking by his side has no respect in my book.
JUST REMEMBER, A MARRIED MAN DOLLAR HAS IN 5 QUARTERS
Are you blind? You must not have read the same story as me but Mr. nice guy painted the man as the villain for putting trash in woman’s head and the woman the fool for believing it! I think you need to read the story again and SLOWLY!!!
i know of one married guy who left his wife he thought the grass was greener now he is with the woman whole heartedly she does treat him like a dog. He have 2children by her he have 1 with his wife who he don’t support, but look who have the last laugh his wife even those he don’t support the child they have a good life. And that not the only thing they don’t live in the bvi but when he see’s her he can’t keep his eyes off her she is looking dam fine he does be saying he know he make mistake he never know what he had now she gone that is what does happen to load of them marriend man. You alway hear what goes around comes around because the same thing what he did to his wife treated on her with this womas is the same thing he is doing to her now and every time is wife is in the bvi she does feel worried that he will leave her and go back to his wife but his wife ain’t want he she has move on.
yes mr nice guy i am a marry woman an my husband was probally fooling off some dumb woman , i see love text mesages from the both that the exchane ! i was confronted her via telephone askin her what she an my husband had wel this is it she inform me that he aint marry to ah soul so i say who am i then??? mr nice guy she think she in things but he well foolin she , beacause i know both me an my husband has a good relationship its not me will ghe hurt it well be she hurtin she self cause i am so so happy !!!we both has ah great family an i thank god for that!!! so mr nice guy i let she be cause it would be a waste a time arguin with she ,cause i know when time comes when she callin him at night time an lie to she that he was sleepin is home with his family he be that he cant answer , so let she be foolish to fall for that !!!!! i run things so i can careless wha he an she do all them better makesure me aint catch them !!!!!!
As usual with you nice guy women gets the blame! I wouldn’t say some women are not to blame in these circumstances, but I will almost give my last dollar to bet that married men are the first to approach another woman even though he has his wife. And I am almost certain that half of the women who get involved with married men do not know of that fact until they are involved. You make it seem as though all affairs are started by these women. Fair is fair! Some women go after married men and some married men go after other women. Either way its wrong! Which ever woman cut you cut you deep buddy for you to always feel the need to target them.
You sound like you sleeping with somebody’s husband/wife. Boy this article hit you hard, nuh!
@Reality: To Realty: You sound like a smart woman. When my husband moved, I packed up and went with him cos knowing what these women are like – chicken-hawks, instead of me just visiting him from time to time. And I did the right thing.
- and she says ‘ I’m in lve with you and not your wife’.Whomever you are , you hit the nail on the head with this article. Women need to wise up . Society too would be a better place if we women do not sell ourselves short and have some sort of have pride and dignity . We shoud never settle for less than the best.
Many good women are deceived by married men. Many others don’t give a damn that a man is married. There are many women that have no ability to provide for themselves and offer sexual favors in every form and fake adoration in need of the return of money and material items so they can have clothes, hair, nails, phone, and food. Many of these women will bend over backwards to get what they want, even if they don’t really like the man; because there always is another sucker down the road. What is amazing is the stupidity of the men to risk a solid relationship with their wife or girlfriend for these lustful relationships that are built on sexual favors. Witness the married men rushing to pick up their lovers at the watering holes wisking the girls away for some heated sex and thinking they are keeping other guys away by keeping an eye on their side girls. The joKe is on the man, because she is playing them too. Sadly the committed wife/girlfriend is a( home and the next time she is intimate with her partner she takes not only him into her bed but also the women he has slept with and these womens’ other lovers and all the women these lovers have slept with and so on… And this is how we get STDs. Here’s a hint men: if you treat your wife/girlfriend with as much adoration as you do your lover, you’d be getting all the crazy, wild sex you are seeking elsewhere. You’d also have a happy woman at home who would show you affection and love instead of the anger and frustration she throws at you bwcause you are never home and out sleeping around.
In regards to the single ladies who are misled and lied to, many of you think we should be able to diss a married man away? It may be easy if you have just met but after a long while if love has grown it isn’t that simple. It’s unfair to blame it on the woman. The man is the one with all the facts. He knows he is married and he is the one lying and cheating to make the side girl fall in love with him. She is just as much a victim as the wife. As for thee cheaters (players) with wives offshore studying or living abroad, and who say they are divorcing it is unfair to exoect a single woman who is being whispered all the right words, and treated in all the kindest of ways to not ignore the fact he is not quite divorced. There are NO single men in the BVI unless you want a young boy, an unemployed guy, an unambitious guy, or a guy who hangs out at the strip clubs and has three girlfriends he sleeps with or better yet a drunken crackhead! So perhaps, after the passage of several years as a single woman with no prosprospects for a husband, let alone a boyfriend, by the time a lying “divorcee” comes along the single woman is vulnerable and when months later she finds out the wife was visiting sick family or in school abroad, well you cannot just turn love off like a water faucet. Word of advice to married women: Don’t get married and have children until you have attained your personal goals such as an engineering degree. If you are married with children you need to either poistpone those dreams until the kids are grown and away to college or take online courses. But never leave your huband for extended periods of time. Especially if you know they are a player! If it were me and I had a huband I had to leave I’d post our pictures in the local classifieds weekly with a small love letter like “Miss you baby, be home soon”.
@salop!: Seems like this hit home. I am a woman and not offended at all by what Mr Nice guy said. It is truthful. To much women hooking up with married man for benefits. It need to stop!
I must admit I love this article today.
A little funny, a little harsh and explicit article but so true! Married men need to know their true place in the home and society and stop preying on the emotional side of women to get in the panties. And some of these women need to stop entertaining the married men with them crap, learn to respect their bodies and have standards.
I don’t agree that women create monster but “some” and not all women. The same can be said of “some” men, an equal balance, Mr Nice Guy. No wonder our society is so lawless and messed up.
even though they are divorced it is salop too as you call it nonsense!!!!!!!!
who are you to call ppl names ye without sin CAST THE FIRST STONE YOU ALL DISGUST ME go pray for your sins before condeming ppl.
So true
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