The Family Support Network (FSN) said it is planning to aggressively tackle anger and relationship issues for 2018, adding that the territory will need a bigger prison if the issues are not promptly addressed.
The issue has been one of the shortfalls in the territory, especially last year when at least one woman was maimed by her lover and another allegedly slaughtered with a knife by her husband.
FSN Director, Dr Sylvia Simmons said the rising anger management issues and domestic violence cases could only worsen if the cycle of abuse is made to continue.
“We would like to do more programmes for women where we have groups, where no more than 10 women can sit and share information on how to cope with situations, how to budget, how to deal with their emotions, how to look at their relationship in a different perspective and what is a healthy relationship versus what’s not a healthy relationship,” she said.
Dr Simmons said the FSN also plans to teach women to discern “how to stop the repeated pattern of picking the same kind of person over and over and to find out ‘why am I keep doing this to myself’. We would like to work with children, both male, and female at six or eight-week intervals where we have up to eight to ten males and females in separate groups where they also deal with anger.”
Dr Simmons told BVI News yesterday, that with help from donors, FSN will be able to properly tackle issues of domestic violence and abuse.
Young people follow patterns from home
She explained that the young people tend to copy what they see from home.
“The young people that we are seeing very often – it’s because they are seeing it and because they feel it; mommy beat up daddy, daddy beat up mommy. I learn that this is what I do when I am angry because mom and dad do it. So, you’re teaching me how to do the same thing when I have issues. ‘When I have issues I fight because this is what I am learning’ as opposed to how can we discuss this and react differently.”
The FSN Director pointed out that requisite tools are crucial to addressing those issues.
“You have to give them the tools to do that and until we are able to give youngsters that information and learn the skills so they can apply them, they have no clue how to move forward with so they can cope. So, these are the things that we would love to do.”
Build a bigger prison
She continued: “If we don’t make changes going forward, we have a next generation coming after us which is our children who are going to repeat the same behaviour and the dynamics are going to be even worse because we would have to build a bigger prison since they don’t have an outlet to express their anger and how to express their feelings.”
Dr Simmons said the cries for help by local families is growing by the day.
“We have a major problem in this country, there has to be some way of dealing with that pressure. Whether it is the government or the private sector, we have to come to the table to discuss what do we do going forward.”
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